As I write this, my son is in his room screaming his face off. A moment ago he was sitting on my lap and I thought he was happy and then he tried to pinch me, and I said no so he flipped out. I stuck him in his crib. I know we’re supposed to help them deal with their emotions but I will NOT let him hurt me. He’s never actually been able to fully bite or pinch or scratch me, he hasn’t had that satisfaction but for some reason it’s what he’s craving. He doesn’t want me to cuddle or be tender, he wants me to be his punching bag and I WILL NOT let that happen. So he’s screaming in his crib. I turned on some music for him, I chose not to give him his soother because I think it’s giving him a false sense of calm. He’s obviously full of some sort of frustration right now so I’m letting it have it out in a safe place. Sometimes you just need to have a good cry right? I’m letting him have that. He’s really mad. This is the first time that I feel VERY out of control with this boy. I want to be understanding to him because I know he’s getting in all these terrible molars. How do you help him when he’s hurting you? It’s funny, perhaps he’s just like me, when I’m mad I want to kick and punch too, I usually just take it out on a pillow or the wall. I can’t show him that he can do things like that because he wont understand. I couldn’t care less if he bit and hit the crap out of a pillow, he needs to get rid of his frustrations. Anyway, I’m at a loss, the whole “help your child with their feelings” thing doesn’t seem to come into play when they’re trying to beat you. I think letting him freak out in his room like this will help a bit, I hope. I really hope it isn’t making him more frustrated. I guess I’ll know when I go in there, I really hope this works. I feel so out of control. Help?
My little darling a week ago, the calm before the storm.
** So I let him cry until his cries went from mad to sad, then I picked him up and we had a very good cuddle. The sun is shining so I brought him to the deck to continue our cuddle while getting some helpful happy rays, he’s out there squeaking and playing, I think my theory worked….for now.